What commitments do group members make?

Peer group participants often experience personal and vocational renewal when groups have a culture of closeness -- a “family feel.” When participants feel close to each other, they draw on the collective wisdom and experience of the group to discuss ministry challenges and opportunities, provide personal support and accountability, and offer pastoral feedback. The group becomes a safe space to share worries, untested ideas and hopes for the future.

Covenant making can strengthen the life of a group and help shape a culture of closeness. Each learning community establishes norms by which it conducts itself.

Commitments members make might include the following:

• Come to this group with 100% of yourself. This means two things: to be as present to this group as you can be, and to bring all of what you are -- fears and failings, as well as joys and successes.
• Presume welcome and extend welcome. We all learn most effectively in spaces that welcome us. Know that you are welcome, that you belong, and extend this welcome to others.
• No fixing. Offer advice or reflection when invited to do so, but otherwise avoid the temptation to set a colleague straight.
• Share the air. Pay attention to how much of the group time you take. Every voice is important, and no single voice ought to dominate.
• When the going gets rough, turn to wonder. When you find yourself disagreeing with another, becoming judgmental, wanting to set the other straight or becoming defensive, ask a question.
• Speak for yourself. A helpful practice is to use “I” statements.
• Listen to silence. Silence is a rare gift in our busy world. Allow silence to be another member of the group.
• Observe confidentiality. This is especially important since you are here with colleagues and friends.
• Believe that it is possible to emerge from this group refreshed, surprised and less burdened than when you came. Expect that our time together can provide renewal, refreshment and helpful perspectives for the work at hand.
• Stay in touch. Keep the dialogue and relationships going between meetings.